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Guys on the apps have no game. Creepshow. I’m an attractive, heterosexual woman who wants no-strings-attached sex.

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Where do I find non-creeps for that? How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Send your questions for Stoya and Rich to howtodoit@slate.com . Dear How to Do It, I am a single woman in her early 30s. I’m attractive and have never had issues attracting a partner. But after a series of disappointing relationships, each around a year, I’m just not in a mood to engage emotionally with men right now. The thing is, I have a high sex drive, and I can’t fully satisfy myself on my own—though believe me, I try. The cliché is that this should be an easy problem to fix: Plenty of men want to have sex with a woman with no strings, right? Here are my limitations: In the past, when I’ve had hookup buddies, I like them, but it never really is just sex—we inevitably get to know each other better and then I end up getting entangled with him, whether I want to or not. I also am not really into sex parties or the poly scene, for better or worse, I like the intimacy of one-on-one connections, even if all I want is sex right now. Recently in How to Do It. I Tried to Send My Girlfriend a Naked Selfie. I’m Losing It at What I Did Instead. My Wife Has a Dark Side in Bed. I Want to Know Why. So I’m not really sure how to proceed. I’ve identified a few bars in my town that are … good for this sort of thing, but that is hit or miss for finding an attractive guy. When I tell my gay friends about this, they talk about how easy it is to find what they want on Grindr and the like, and I’m honestly jealous. Tinder and similar apps for straight people are full of creeps who have no game, and I’m afraid if I’m upfront about what I want, I’ll attract even more of that type. What’s a straight girl who just wants good, unattached sex to do? —Tinder’s No Grindr. Dear Tinder’s No Grindr, It’s true—even when both parties are completely uninterested in anything serious or romantic, you can still eventually end up in the bath-products aisle together debating whether your connection means anything and having moments of odd, sticky feelings toward each other. In your case, it sounds like at least some of the entanglement is coming from your end. So put reminders in your phone: Make the guys have names like “Chris Nothing Serious Johnson” or “Joe This Is Just Sex Beatty.” Whatever will underscore the boundaries you’ve set and need to respect for yourself, in addition to expecting the guy to adhere to. Hopefully that’ll make it easier to keep a good casual connection going (once you’ve found an acceptable partner) without tipping into what you don’t want. As far as apps go, I’m wondering if you’ve specifically tried Bumble. I have participated in precisely zero dating apps, so I can’t say how the quality of interactions compares exactly, but having women as the initiators as a feature might help you cut down on the noise from people you don’t find appealing from a cursory profile scan. I’m also wondering if it’s possible to go back to former flings for another round or two. Having a few partners you see somewhat less frequently might make it easier to prevent the entanglements that can result from too much close proximity. Still, unfortunately, you’re going to have to get out there and wade through at least some potential creeps. They might all turn out to be mostly benign, but some might not. They’re a part of single and sexually active life. Meet in public places that are likely to have people around, be careful with the location of your home, and remember you can always leave if you get uncomfortable or feel a weird vibe. Dear How to Do It, I’m 40, in decent shape, and have my life together. I’ve had two longish relationships, 10 months and three months. I was a late virgin—I lost it at 35 to my then-girlfriend through internet dating. I’ve dated more than 40 women (from 2014 to 2016) and took three to bed total. I’ve been told my penis is “above average” size. Gotten compliments on how great my butt is. I’ve also been told I’m an “incredible” kisser. I’m funny, smart, and an award-winning screenwriter. But … the biggest negative is that I’m short. I’m 5-foot-5. I’m also not white. I’m Indian. In online dating, height is a major thing. After two years of no dates and no responses to literally thousands of likes and swipes and messages, I have no confidence left. I’ve made new profiles with new professional pictures. Female friends have helped me make my profiles. They’ve been sweet and tried to help me by saying nice things to me and being kind to me. But I’ve not had a date in more than two years. I’m really worried that it’s my height. Recently, I met a woman at yoga. She’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. I’ve had two good conversations with her. I’m not sure if she was giving me a vibe or any signals.